A man's Man

I hope very one is keeping up and reading chapter two in our book "Feminine Appeal" We have been challenged in our thinking to recognize that when we married, we married a sinner just like us.
I also want to challenge us to think that not only did we marry a sinner but we married a man...that might sound a bit obvious....but really think about it. He is a man and you are a woman and God made us both very different. It is not to unlikely to think that many women expect their husbands to be women...they expect them to think like a woman, respond like a woman even at times act like women. But instead, our husbands surprise us and act like men and that frustrates us sometimes.
Elizabeth Elliot writes about such situations:
"But somehow marriage has also insinuated into their cozy lives this unpredictable, unruly creature called man. He is likely to be bigger and louder and tougher and hungrier and dirtier than a woman expects...Anything he does which seems to be inexplicable or indefensible to her she dismisses with "Just like a man!" as though this were a condemnation or at best an excuse instead of a very good reason for thanking God"

There are times we are frustrated and get angry by this inability to not understand each other. But we must not only recognize our differences but also be grateful and enjoy them. Sometimes we must just accept their differences and say "Viva Le Difference!" as they do in France. Like a good mystery their masculinity should captivate us...we should appreciate that they stand firm when we crumble, that their steadfastness balances our impulsiveness or which ever way his actions and emotions balance ours.

They also have an independence from us. They are not meant to fulfill all our desires. Only God through the Lord Jesus can achieve that. When God said to Abraham "Walk before me and be perfect" He did not say "Walk before Sarah and be perfect" His perfection comes through Christ and it is God alone who does that as he has created him. Ultimately he is God's man...we are his helper and, on this journey, we are to appreciate his "manliness" for it should beautifully complement our "womanliness"