This week we start chapter 2 in our book. This chapter is so rich and full of great Biblical insight that it ought to change our minds and then our actions toward our husbands. Some key thoughts to point out:
1--The difference in the call for women to "phileo" love and men to "agapeo" love.
2--She makes a note that we must LEARN to adopt this kind of love (a tender and passionate love)
3--God is using our marriage to grow us in Godliness. As a matter of fact, can I say that one of His greatest tools for our sanctification is our spouse!
4-Finally if we are at a point that we want to give up...remember God does not make mistakes. We do! So to make things "right" we must look at ourselves. What did we bring into the marriage that we should have left back in singleness? Did we come into marriage thinking I can change him? I love what Elizabeth Elliot says about marriage. We did not marry a knight in shinning armor..."No he is a sinner...just like you"
In Elizabeth Elliot's book "Let me be a Woman" she writes a series of letters to her only daughter ... she writes:
1--The difference in the call for women to "phileo" love and men to "agapeo" love.
2--She makes a note that we must LEARN to adopt this kind of love (a tender and passionate love)
3--God is using our marriage to grow us in Godliness. As a matter of fact, can I say that one of His greatest tools for our sanctification is our spouse!
4-Finally if we are at a point that we want to give up...remember God does not make mistakes. We do! So to make things "right" we must look at ourselves. What did we bring into the marriage that we should have left back in singleness? Did we come into marriage thinking I can change him? I love what Elizabeth Elliot says about marriage. We did not marry a knight in shinning armor..."No he is a sinner...just like you"
In Elizabeth Elliot's book "Let me be a Woman" she writes a series of letters to her only daughter ... she writes:
"Marriage is a choice above all others...You marry this person.
He may be the person who was, ten years ago, the "Big Man of Campus".
You were attracted to him because he was a football star, president of the student body, (smart, articulate or even lavished you with attention). But life settled down to the humdrum. Marriage is no house party. ...
This man who once was a spellbinding orator or a great half-back... somehow does not seem terribly significant anymore. But you ought to, now and then, remember who he was... ask yourself what it was that caught your eye. "Come now," you will say to yourself, "I did not marry him because he was a great halfback, did I?" No, you married this person. Whatever the inner qualities were there that enabled him to be attractive to you, they are still a part of this person that you go to bed with and eat breakfast with and wrestle over budgets. He is the person with the same potentials ... Your responsibility now, is to appreciate genuinenly and deeply who he is. You are to support and encourage and draw out of him those qualities that you originally saw and admired."
That is how Phileo love can return to our marriages...think back, remember and look at him now with that same tender passionate love you had at the beginning.
See you tomorrow at 7!
That is how Phileo love can return to our marriages...think back, remember and look at him now with that same tender passionate love you had at the beginning.
See you tomorrow at 7!
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